Episode 176: Discovering Your Private Type (Deep Dive)

This week, we’re sharing a deep dive on our expertise cleansing out and curating our personal closets. We’re additionally sharing how we received shade consults what our greatest colours are. 

Plus, we’re sharing suggestions for locating a mode that felt proper for us.

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Present Notes:

Learn The Curated Closet and take a look at The Curated Closet Workbook.

Take a look at Emma’s weblog submit: 3 Issues I Realized from The Curated Closet

We received our shade consults from createdcolorful.com

Emma’s Coloration: Mild Summer season (pale colours like lavender and funky tones)

Elsie’s Coloration: Deep Autumn (browns and plum)

Suggestions for Discovering Your Type and Feeling Good:


-Take a look at the clothes, make-up, and kinds you continue to love from OLD photographs and you will see that issues that really feel basic to you.

– When you’ve got clothes that you just put on by default that makes you are feeling dangerous about your self, let it go.

-Create a temper board on your wardrobe.


-Have high-quality fundamentals that fit your needs effectively and that you’ll put on lots.

-Your garments ought to mirror how attractive you’re.

-In case you love one thing, purchase it in a couple of colours.

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Episode 176 Transcript:

Emma: You’re listening to The attractive Mess Podcast, your cozy consolation hear. This week we’re sharing a deep dive into our expertise, of cleansing out and curating our personal closets. We’re sharing how we received shade consults and study when our greatest colours are, and we’re sharing suggestions for a way we discovered a mode that felt proper for us.

Elsie: Yeah, a mode deep dive. I’m excited to do that episode, the colour seek the advice of half is new, after which the curated closet half. I really feel like we’ve been speaking about that since like episode one, however it actually is such an enormous a part of what I feel helped me create a closet that like the place you actually put on your stuff. Like an important factor, you actually put on it, proper? 

Emma: Identical. That’s at all times the factor that I inform mates in the event that they’re like, I’m attempting to work on my private model. Not that anybody’s asking me for style recommendation, however I’m at all times like, oh, I learn this e book, it has a workbook. You are able to do one or the opposite or each, you don’t should have learn the e book to benefit from the workbook. Folks at all times ask that too, and Curated Closet is superior. 

Elsie: Yeah. Effectively, the factor I’ve discovered from my mother period is that even when you’re like, I don’t do style running a blog, I don’t take into account myself a style individual. I don’t actually like procuring that a lot. I don’t actually care. You continue to put on garments day by day and you continue to want to be ok with your self day by day and it nonetheless issues. I sort of don’t see a time in life when it doesn’t matter in any respect. As a result of it impacts, at the very least for me, how I really feel, how comfy I really feel, and I don’t understand how I current myself in public and simply the whole lot like that. So I feel that it’s a terrific matter for sort of anybody and I had a lot enjoyable. The seek the advice of was undoubtedly like a brand new expertise. First, let’s speak concerning the Curated Closet a little bit bit. So for anybody who doesn’t know or has by no means heard of this. We love this e book referred to as The Curated Closet, and we particularly suggest the Curated Closet workbook, which we are going to hyperlink in our present notes. It’s identical to a terrific useful resource if perhaps you’ve graduated school or perhaps you’ve turn into a mother, or one thing’s occurred to the place your life has actually modified and you’re feeling such as you’re in between, you don’t know what to do, so that you’re carrying the identical factor again and again, what’s in your closet doesn’t actually match the best way you’re residing anymore. That is the person who this e book is de facto made for, and it occurs to all of us a number of instances in our life. For me, I’ve at all times felt like due to our historical past of running a blog and being in footage lots and stuff, I’ve at all times felt very comfy getting dressed up for photographs. I understand how I wanna look in photographs. I understand how to do my make-up, photographs, hair, and the whole lot. Being in photographs is simple for me. However discovering like an on a regular basis model that isn’t simply pajamas has at all times been very difficult for me and I’m very all or nothing. So for me, I normally give attention to on a regular basis garments. Yeah, like mother uniform kind of factor. After which it additionally helped me study what I’m carrying the most important share. She has all these workouts within the e book like, what do you put on most days? What do you put on infrequently? And I spotted that once I first began, the vast majority of my closet was kind of like weblog garments. The place we don’t actually go to weblog occasions as a lot as we used to, however stuff you would put on in public at a weblog factor, simply sort of loopy garments. After which the stuff we’d put on in footage, which is sort of loopy garments, after which stuff that we put on in our on a regular basis life, which is barely much less loopy garments. And yeah, for me I spotted that I must spend extra on issues that I’m gonna put on 100 instances, just like the issues I put on on a regular basis and I must spend much less on so many outfits that I’ve worn like twice. 

Emma: Yeah. And I really wrote a weblog submit some time in the past and we’ll hyperlink it within the present notes, however it’s referred to as three issues I discovered from The Curated Closet. And for me, that weblog submit is sort of like a fast overview synopsis of my largest takeaways from it. So in case you’re considering that, test it out. Earlier than I learn the e book after which did the workbook, she has like a whole lot of challenges in there that you are able to do. Earlier than I did that, I felt like I had a whole lot of my closet that I used to be air quotes, saving like I by no means wore it, however I preferred all of it. I simply didn’t ever put on it cuz it didn’t really match my actual life, it sort of match this like fantasy life or this previous life, cuz we used to love work out of an workplace collectively and we had a little bit crew after which ultimately we began working from dwelling. And I’ve labored from dwelling now for a very long time, like eight or 9 years and the kind of work I do is a mixture of pc work. So I’m sitting at a pc like lots of people, but additionally a whole lot of cooking within the kitchen and getting down low to take photographs and crafting and getting down low to take photographs. After which additionally since I grew to become a mother once more, a whole lot of getting down low decide up my son or various things like that, so a whole lot of, I don’t wanna put on yoga pants each single day. That doesn’t really feel like my model or comfy to me. I imply, it’s comfy, however I imply, it doesn’t make me really feel put collectively. For some individuals it would, for me, it doesn’t, however I spotted I had a whole lot of garments that simply didn’t, I wanted one thing that was extra, I don’t know if health or athletic is the proper phrase, however issues that I may transfer in much more than I actually had realized, in order that sort of factor. After which I additionally grew up, I really feel like in highschool, you’ll in all probability bear in mind we had a very tight funds, clearly like everybody does in highschool since you like work on the Greenback Tree, however I had a whole lot of garments that have been like issues I sort of cobbled collectively from the thrift retailer. So that they have been principally fairly wild, and that was enjoyable, however I don’t really feel like I ever discovered how to buy like actually good fundamentals that match me effectively. And that’s like in all probability the primary factor that I discovered within the curated closet I used to be carrying a whole lot of garments that the match wasn’t proper, I wanted to get them tailor-made. Or I must spend extra and get one thing that matches me higher as a result of perhaps I purchased one thing off of a clearance rack and it didn’t fairly match me, however the worth was proper. After which I ended up not carrying it lots trigger it didn’t really feel nice in it. And so it’s like, okay, you both must get this tailor-made or it’s worthwhile to donate it and go purchase one thing that matches you effectively, in order that sort of factor. And so ever since then, each single factor in my closet I put on and I really like, and I really feel like I’ve tons, I really feel like I’ve no deficit of outfits, which feels so good, however I additionally really feel like I can prepare in like 5 minutes if I must. And I by no means felt that means earlier than. I felt like I didn’t really feel very put collectively, I felt like most of my closet was stuff I used to be saving, quote unquote, for one more time and that point by no means got here. And I additionally felt prefer it really took me longer to prepare and I didn’t even really feel as put collectively as a result of I simply didn’t know what went collectively. And so now I’ve set uniforms mainly. And I additionally put on a whole lot of jumpsuits as a result of that’s a straightforward one.

Elsie: Yeah, I undoubtedly have one other clean-out coming in my future however the factor that I’ve discovered probably the most from the previous, I’ve finished it a few instances, after which typically it’s such as you do it after which a couple of years go by and it’s worthwhile to do it once more, at the very least that’s how I’m. One in every of my coping behaviors within the early pandemic was on-line procuring, so I feel I’ve in all probability stated that earlier than, however it was, and I identical to collected a whole lot of garments that I nonetheless haven’t worn. So I really feel like now, it’s my job to determine what works from this unhealthy procuring behavior that I had for a second.

Emma: Hey, it occurs to us all. I can not let you know what number of issues I assumed whereas I used to be breastfeeding. So, no disgrace man. No disgrace. 

Elsie: Yeah. To make clear, I’m not ashamed of it, however I really feel actually dangerous. Like I don’t wanna waste these things. So I wanna determine it out now. What is going to I actually put on? After which additionally what can I move on to a good friend? Or I in all probability received’t do an internet sale, I’d undoubtedly donate. We would do an property sale after we transfer from this dwelling. Anyhow, yeah, I simply sort of should type out all of that. However anyway, the factor I discovered previously from my cleanouts is that I sort of at all times return to the identical model. It doesn’t matter what I feel I need or it doesn’t matter what I’m drawn to that I see different individuals carrying or what’s in model or no matter, I at all times return to the identical kind of look over and over and I at all times have. So I really feel like I do know now and I undoubtedly received this from doing all of the mini workbook sections of The Curated Closet. I do know now what my core model is and I simply have to remain near that and that for me is one of the best ways to buy efficiently. 

Emma: The one factor I used to be gonna say, we have been speaking about shopping for stuff randomly, in the course of the pandemic and through breastfeeding, since you’re up at 4:00 AM and all that. Usually, although, I’d say after doing the curated closet and the workbook and through the years, I really store lots lower than I used to, I simply are likely to spend a little bit extra. I’ve like denims that I’ve been carrying now for like seven, eight years as a result of they’ve lasted me that lengthy they usually match me, I imply I clearly don’t put on ’em whereas I used to be pregnant. There was actually a time the place they didn’t match. However typically, I’ve a whole lot of issues now that it’s like I’ve had this a very long time and yeah, it was sort of expensive once I purchased it, however now I’m seeing the advantages of shopping for issues that have been a little bit bit larger high quality and match me higher. And I can say like, yeah, it’s been years now since I did the group closet and I really store lots much less, however I do are likely to spend extra. And so I feel that I’m actually proud of that change it makes me really feel like I’m buying much less stuff. I’m not biking by way of issues as a result of I simply thought it was a great worth, however it wasn’t really one thing that labored effectively for me. And I really feel just like the issues that I’m bringing into my home and bringing into my life and spending my cash on are staying with me for much longer, they usually’re getting much more use and that makes me actually completely happy.

Elsie: Yeah, that’s the purpose. That’s the final purpose. I feel shopping for issues that you understand you’re gonna put on for years is the absolute best method to store. So I undoubtedly suggest The Curated Closet to anybody who hasn’t finished it. And I feel it’s simply such a great course of I can’t wait to do my subsequent cleanout once more. 

Emma: Yeah, shifting is such a great time for that. So I’m excited for you, it’s a lot enjoyable. 

Elsie: I nonetheless additionally, I ought to point out, I nonetheless do the Marie Apartment factor too, the place you are taking the whole lot out and put it in a single large pile and check out the whole lot on, after which put it again in solely after you’ve tried it on. I feel that that’s a very good methodology. I feel there’s simply one thing to it, to getting it bodily out of your closet that prefer it additionally sort of forces you. For individuals like me, it forces me to not get distracted and be like, I’ll end this one other day. Attempting on garments is sort of boring, and in case you get all of them outta your closet, you then sort of should get them again in, one thing about it really works very well. 

Emma: Yeah, I virtually really feel prefer it helps you eliminate issues that you just perhaps wanted to as a result of it’s such as you actually already took it out of your closet prefer it’s now sitting in your mattress or sitting on the ground, and so now you must bodily put it again in. So it’s such as you’re actually making a choice to maintain it. Whereas in case you don’t really take it outta your closet, you simply stroll round your closet and determine in case you wanna maintain issues or not. It’s like there’s no actual, it’s virtually like extra effort to eliminate one thing. So in case you’re on the fence, in case you’re like, I actually haven’t worn this in a 12 months however it’s cute, then it’s I’ll simply go away it hanging. It’s already hanging right here. Whereas if it’s like sitting on the ground or sitting in your mattress, it’s like, oh, I haven’t worn this in a 12 months and I can’t consider the following time I’ll put on it. Possibly I ought to give this to a good friend or promote it or donate it, no matter it could be.

Elsie: Sure. Okay, so subsequent up we did Coloration consults with Created Colourful is the identify of the corporate. So I heard about Created Colourful One Day on, you understand I love to do the Instagram Q&A’s infrequently and I did one the place somebody was like, what season are you? And I used to be like, I don’t know, however I feel I’m both an autumn or a winter is what I’d guess, however I’m undecided. How are you aware? And somebody DMed me and stated that they did a seek the advice of with created colourful and that it modified their life and I booked one instantly. That’s the advice, proper? Prefer it modified my life. I feel she particularly stated even my husband is getting his personal now, which I used to be like, oh, that’s attention-grabbing. I don’t assume I may get my husband to do that due to all of the selfie selfies you’ll, you’ll hear about it in a minute. There’s numerous selfies. I used to be like, I need one thing that’s gonna change my life. And so I went on their web site they usually say that they’ll allow you to look higher in your on a regular basis garments. They decide colours that look good on you in your on a regular basis life once you’re not carrying make-up. So I used to be like bought. So I signed up for it and I assumed the expertise was so nice. So I’ll clarify a little bit bit about the way it works. So first, you fill out a questionnaire after which they ask you for a sure variety of selfies. The selfies are alleged to be like, they’ve specs. They’ve a little bit video that exhibits you the way to take them, however you’re like dealing with a window. They find yourself telling me it’s not likely good to have a white background. And also you maintain up totally different colours of cloth or you possibly can put on totally different colours of cloth. So it’s just about identical to your face, your hair pulled again, no make-up, they usually simply wanna have a look at you carrying totally different colours. So they offer you all the colours and the primary set I in all probability did like. 20 or perhaps 20 to 30 footage. After which on the second set, they ask you for extra particular colours as a result of they’re attempting to love slender down what works and what doesn’t work. After which I suppose in case you didn’t do a great job, then you must do a 3rd set. We each needed to do third units, proper? 

Emma: Yep, positive did. 

Elsie: However yeah, I used to be like, oh, there’s no means I’m gonna should do a 3rd set and I did. So don’t really feel dangerous in case you do. So I did all of these selfies. There have been so many I felt like I may see on my cellphone like a distinction. Did you are feeling like you can sort of inform a few of them have been standing out as like actually good and actually dangerous? Whenever you like have a look at the collage of all of them collectively in your cellphone. 

Emma: Yeah, and as soon as once more, my jumpsuits got here in very useful as a result of I actually would identical to maintain all 10 of my jumpsuits as much as my face, and that was like most of my selfies. I had a couple of different sweaters and various things that I held up. I had a sneaking suspicion for a couple of years now that lavender is sort of my shade, which is bizarre as a result of I do love lavender, however I’ve by no means considered purple as my favourite shade or a shade that I gravitate in the direction of, and lavender’s beautiful. However till it even got here again with the squiggly eighties model, it actually wasn’t even one thing that was on my radar, completely. However I’ve at all times seen once I put on lavender nail polish, I actually prefer it towards my pores and skin after which I’ve a sort of lavender jumpsuit and this sort of lavender sweater and I’ve at all times thought I’d simply look actually good in them, regardless that I’m like, once more, lavender I’ve by no means considered it as like my shade. So anyway, I may sort of see like from all of the selfies within the folder, I used to be like, yeah, that one sort of appears to be like like the perfect, which was my sneaking suspicion. And I used to be like, what is that this gonna imply for my shade? So, yeah. 

Elsie: Yeah, I may too. And it’s actually attention-grabbing once you have a look at your selfies altogether, like in your digicam roll view, how a lot your pores and skin tones change simply by carrying totally different colours, which I didn’t actually know was potential. I didn’t perceive it in any respect earlier than doing this train, so it was very attention-grabbing. So yeah, for my outcome, I used to be anticipating to get fall or winter and there are three totally different variations of every one. There’s like mild, medium, and darkish I feel for each. In order that’s even six totally different choices. What have been you anticipating to get? 

Emma: Most likely the precise reverse of what I received, which is humorous.

Elsie: Ooh. What have been you anticipating? 

Emma: I used to be open to no matter, however I suppose I hoped for one thing sort of fall. I like fall colours as a result of I like fall time, It’s my favourite season, so far as the vibes. I used to be sort of hoping, I suppose, for that, however once more, I had the sneaking suspicion that lavender was sort of my shade, which isn’t a fall shade, clearly. And low and behold, after I did my three rounds of selfies, my shade is mild summer season. Which is the best way that they described it, lavender is certainly like the colour in there. After which the best way they described it’s it’s a whole lot of colours which can be cool tones so not likely heat tones ever. So even in case you’re carrying brown, it’s like a cool tone brown after which nothing tremendous harsh. So like as an alternative of black, I’d look higher in charcoal. After which it’s additionally a whole lot of colours that begin with the phrase pale. So like pale yellow, pale pink, pale purple, which is lavender. So, which is humorous cuz I don’t actually consider myself as a pastel individual. Once more, I don’t dislike them or something, I really feel like once I see garments I gravitate towards daring colours. Most likely lots of people do as a result of it’s like what stands out to your eye? However these aren’t actually the issues that look nice with my pores and skin. And though I put on make-up most days, I don’t actually put on tremendous full-coverage make-up. I put on sort of lighter on a regular basis make-up is how I’d describe it. So I do assume gravitating extra in the direction of the colours that go well with me and my pure colours makes extra sense and is simply gonna spotlight my options, which you sort of hit on this. However that was one factor that actually bought me as a result of Elsie received into this and he or she was like, it is best to do it. And I used to be like, I don’t know, We’ll see. However I preferred their web site, or perhaps it was on Instagram that I noticed this, however they talked about the way to discover your proper colours, I don’t assume they used the phrase proper. The colours for you’re extra about highlighting identical to your pure property, your eyes, your pores and skin, your hair, even in case you dye your hair, prefer it’s about highlighting you and displaying off who you actually are and what you actually appear to be versus hiding it or protecting it up or dressing for this fantasy look, that isn’t really the way you look. It’s simply how a mannequin and {a magazine} look and also you wanna appear to be her. 

Elsie: I undoubtedly have that drawback. When on-line procuring, I’ve at all times been very influenced by the fashions and the way the fashions look, and I nonetheless even now that I do know what my colours are, and nonetheless continually am gravitating in the direction of outfits which can be shot on very dark-skinned black girls as a result of I identical to how they appear. I identical to it, it simply appears to be like good. Yeah, but when it’s a pastel then it’s gonna look dangerous on me and now I do know that. Okay, so I used to be anticipating to get fall or winter and I assumed fall as a result of I simply knew like earth tones or I’ve a whole lot of earth tones in my closet. I’d say my closet is usually earth tones. So I felt like that does make sense as a result of it’s what I’m comfy carrying and really feel good in. However in winter I’ve sort of pale pores and skin and I really feel a whole lot of the superstar examples within the autumn have darker pores and skin or are extra like a JLo kind of individual. And I didn’t actually relate to that, so I assumed perhaps it was winter additionally as a result of I actually like carrying black and I used to be satisfied that black is considered one of my hottest colours, which was my largest shock. Black is on my don’t put on record, as in it’s not good and I’m so confused. I nonetheless sort of don’t imagine it, regardless that I settle for that it’s true.

Emma: Effectively as a result of it’s cooler. Proper? So it’s such as you’re alleged to put on hotter issues, so it is best to put on a darkish, darkish brown. 

Elsie: They have been like carrying black however with a distinct shade with it. I simply love all black, however in truth, my kids look actually good. One in every of our daughters wears all-black outfits on a regular basis, and he or she appears to be like actually good in them, and I ought to have identified that. I don’t have the identical shade zone as my children. So anyhow, so I received deep autumn, which I used to be shocked as a result of the examples once you lookup the celebrities, it’s like Eva Mendez, Julia Roberts, I simply was like, I assumed they have been odder to me than I’m. So I used to be very shocked. However general, it is smart as a result of the vast majority of my closet does match inside that spectrum. And so I do assume I used to be already kind of like figuring out what seemed dangerous and good. I already knew pastels look dangerous on me as a result of I’m sort of the identical as my mother and he or she advised me that about herself and it’s true and it’s true for me too. Yeah, I sort of already knew that. And I’ve at all times had a factor with spring procuring my entire life the place I simply really feel like nothing appears to be like good on me within the spring after which within the fall time, I really feel like the whole lot appears to be like good on me. And now I perceive it’s not simply due to sweaters versus tank tops, it’s due to the freaking colours, duh. So now I do know that.

Emma: I additionally simply liked that we received mainly reverse and we’re sisters and I feel in some methods we do look alike, however in different methods, I get it like our pores and skin may be very totally different. If I attempted to put on Elsie’s Basis, it could not look proper. Now we have totally different pores and skin tones.

Elsie: We’ve at all times identified we now have totally different pores and skin varieties and like totally different undertones as a result of Emma has extra of a bent to look purple. And I’ve extra of a bent to look yellow, I feel in footage.

Emma: Yeah. You could have like our mother’s pores and skin and I’ve our dad’s pores and skin. 

Elsie: Yeah, however apart from that, I feel like structurally we glance the identical, however we now have utterly totally different colours. So some individuals both assume we glance nothing alike or, individuals have really like confused us earlier than like individuals have come as much as me and been like, “hello Emma.” So we do, I do know we do look alike, however she has blue eyes, and I’ve brown eyes. She’s at all times had mild hair apart from that one time once you have been carrying your Elsie costume for like three months. 

Emma: Yeah, and I used to be like, this appears to be like horrible on me. 

Elsie: Anyway, I’ve had blonde hair earlier than too, kind of, and it did look horrible, objectively dangerous. Okay, I had a few colours in my report that they inspired me to put on that I wouldn’t have picked out earlier than. Like I’ve been shopping for extra issues on this kind of plum shade and I don’t know why I simply sort of didn’t care about that shade. However now that I search for it, I see it on a regular basis and it’s a straightforward shade to search out and it really works for me. After which I’ve been shopping for browner, that’s not likely new or exhausting. So yeah, I really feel like I’m undoubtedly gonna be capable to make my on a regular basis garments extra flattering. I don’t put on make-up day by day and I’m not going to. So this feels very useful. And I’d say life-changing. It was undoubtedly price it, I can’t bear in mind how a lot it price, however it was like a hundred-something. It was undoubtedly price it for me and I’d undoubtedly suggest it to a good friend. 

Emma: Yeah, and it is also simply each interplay with them, whether or not they have been asking for extra selfies or once they despatched my outcomes, they’re so candy. I felt lovely each time I open considered one of their emails cuz they’re identical to actually encouraging and so I undoubtedly do assume recommending it to a good friend. You don’t have to fret that it’s gonna be this damaging expertise cuz I simply can just about assure it received’t be, it’ll undoubtedly go away them feeling lovely. Which they’re, even when they’ve totally different colours than they thought, which is what occurred to me. And I additionally in my report, so the 2 issues I actually wanna share is one, they’d like a bonus shade for me, they have been like, we seen that this char truce, which it’s this like lime inexperienced jumpsuit I’ve, they’re like, that isn’t actually within the mild summer season spectrum, however it appears to be like actually good on you. So simply so you understand, go for it with that one. And in case you ever have a wild card factor, and I preferred that they have been like, Hey, you don’t have to suit into this field each single time. In case you see one thing and it’s thrilling to you and you’re feeling good in it, perhaps it really works. It’s not like everyone suits in a field on a regular basis, so I actually preferred that. After which the e-mail additionally had a whole lot of suggestions since you is perhaps considering, oh, are they telling me to love throw away the whole lot in my closet that doesn’t match the colours? That sounds costly, and it’s like, yeah, that might be costly doubtlessly. That sounds horrible. However no, they really had a whole lot of suggestions for what to do once you’re carrying a shade that’s perhaps not so nice on your pores and skin and eyes, however you like it and also you wish to put on it, or it’s a sweater that’s particular to you. It’s perhaps your mom gave it to you or it’s classic out of your grandma. You simply wanna put on it, it’s vital to you. The guidelines are issues to contemplate carrying like a shawl in your neck or a scarf or a hat or earrings that perhaps are a extra flattering shade for you. So issues round your face are gonna be a little bit bit extra flattering. After which additionally, in case you simply love shade however it doesn’t look nice on you, take into account carrying it on the underside. So, skirts, pants, footwear, issues like that, tights, you understand, you can go boulder down there as a result of it’s proper by your face. There are much more suggestions than that, I’m simply sort of highlighting a pair. However I simply actually preferred that it didn’t really feel like, listed here are your colours and you must match on this field now, and in case you put on something exterior of it, it’s gonna look dangerous, prefer it actually wasn’t like that in any respect. It really felt very liberating. It felt extra like I used to be given course and I preferred that. 

Elsie: Yeah, I’m glad you talked about that as a result of yeah, I did wanna say I do know a sure a part of our viewers proper now, they’re considering I don’t wanna do that as a result of I don’t wanna be advised what I can’t put on and that is a vital observe, is that I nonetheless assume that black is considered one of my oddest colours and I nonetheless like and it’s on my don’t put on record, however I like don’t care. It’s high-quality. I feel that I simply notice that like that’s a shade that I’m gonna put on once I’m carrying a whole lot of make-up and prefer it’s extra of a dressing up, going out factor for me. And with my on a regular basis garments, my sweatpants, sweatsuit, no matter, like T-shirts.Yeah, t-shirts that’s a great one. Pajamas, just like the stuff that you just at all times put on with no make-up and also you simply wanna really feel good, I in all probability wouldn’t decide it up once more for these. It undoubtedly doesn’t imply that you may’t put on these colours. And likewise I’m like gonna get previous all nails ’trigger it’s Easter and that’s high-quality, I don’t care. You don’t should care about each little factor.

Emma: No, it’s extra if you would like, I don’t know. In case you simply know extra about what may look good on you. So one factor I do occasionally is love thrifting. We’ve talked about thrifting many instances on the present, and for me, thrifting is simply sort of for enjoyable. I do attempt to solely purchase issues that I’m gonna put on or use. A whole lot of what I purchase these days is like issues for Oscar’s fairy backyard, like little ceramics or necklaces that I’m gonna take aside for my jewellery obsession, my necklace-making passion. However I do additionally like to purchase sweaters and garments and issues. And now I simply really feel like I’ve much more course. Cuz typically you see one thing and also you’re like, oh, I feel this is able to match me, and I like the colour, however I don’t know if it appears to be like nice on me. And I really feel like now I’ve simply been given like a little bit permission slip of you possibly can go away that behind for just like the deep fall women, cuz that’s not you. Examine-in on the blue lavender and you understand all that. And if you wish to put on one thing that’s not your shade, go for it, it’s no large deal. Listed here are some suggestions. That’s sort of the vibe of this entire factor. However I like being inventive within a field. I like being given permission to let go of one thing. In order that’s how I view this and for me, it feels liberating and sort of enjoyable. And I additionally identical to, I don’t know, sending within the selfies and it’s virtually like doing an internet quiz in a means. It’s simply enjoyable. Who doesn’t like to try this every now and then? 

Elsie: So have you ever finished any procuring or any cleansing out since you bought your outcomes again? 

Emma: I haven’t finished a lot cleansing out as a result of I don’t really feel like I’ve tons of stuff that I’m like, oh, I undoubtedly gotta eliminate it. I’ve one jumpsuit that’s like mainly sort of a burnt orange. So you understand how large Bud, they’re smalls, however they’re barely totally different sizes. So I used to be like, all proper, this one already was a little bit bit greater on me, so I used to be like, I both must get it tailor-made and now that I notice it’s actually not my shade, I’m like, perhaps I’ll see if somebody who’s extra of a fall.

Elsie: I’ll commerce you. Really, I’d have already got it. I’ll should verify my closet, however I’ll commerce you cuz I already began making a pile for you and it has my scorching pink jumpsuit in it. 

Emma: Yeah, we will commerce cuz this is sort of a terracotta purple, rusty purple. 

Elsie: Sure, I really like the recent pink jumpsuit. I like it. I like it. I like it. I like it. However once I put it on, I don’t like it now I do know why, I perceive, it is smart. It doesn’t make sense how one can have one thing that you just love that a lot and you then put it in your physique and also you’re like, however no. Yeah. I really feel like this was like a lacking piece for us that I’m so glad we now have now. So, yeah, I’m making you a little bit pile, it’s not that large cuz I actually didn’t have a whole lot of pastels in my closet, however I had a couple of and I’ll deliver them with me once I come to go to subsequent week. And yeah, we will do some commerce I like it. Let’s do it. Okay, after which for the longer term, I really feel like my largest change is that like I’m going to purchase like 100% of my on a regular basis primary garments, like my mother uniform-type stuff. I’m gonna purchase all of my colours as a result of I really feel I ought to due to college drop-off kind of conditions. I don’t put on make-up or care in any respect, like in any respect. I care lower than the least. So this can be a great way for me to look my greatest contemplating these phrases. 

Emma: Yeah, similar. If I’m spending a great sum of money, so like, mainly if it’s not thrifted then I’m in all probability gonna stick extra with my shade palettes at all times sooner or later. The one exception is, I’m positive I’ll put on some sort of pumpkin or halloweeny factor within the fall occasionally and I don’t care. I like it and I don’t care if it doesn’t look nice with my pores and skin, don’t matter to me, it’s Halloween. 

Elsie: Yeah, I help that. I feel that that’s good. If I used to be advised I couldn’t put on pumpkin orange, somebody would have hell to pay. You possibly can’t take that away from me so that you’re dealing with it fairly effectively. 

Emma: I’m gonna want a refund as a result of I really like pumpkin

Elsie: Yeah, now we’re shifting on to a piece the place we’re gonna every do three recommendations on discovering your model, feeling good, and Yeah, if we haven’t made this clear sufficient already, it’s coming from the angle of anybody can do that and everybody ought to really feel good of their garments. It’s not like a style, style perspective as a result of we don’t have that. However I do love style. I’ve an appreciation for it. I wouldn’t take into account myself a style individual, although. 

Emma: I feel whether it is like meals, everyone eats and possibly everyone has to cook dinner some, even in case you hate cooking you in all probability should do one thing. So it’s kind of the like, effectively what do you cook dinner day by day? Like what’s your on a regular basis cooking versus what in case you went to a Michelin star restaurant, I’m positive that you can nonetheless admire that meals and it doesn’t imply that you must cook dinner it in your personal dwelling as a result of frankly, you don’t have the abilities. I don’t and it’s okay to have all these totally different ranges. I really assume that’s actually enjoyable and thrilling and that’s how I view style. I really like style. It’s so cool. Anyway, totally different ranges of style are superior, that’s all I used to be attempting to say. 

Elsie: So listed here are our suggestions. My first one is to take a look at the clothes, make-up, and kinds that you just nonetheless love out of your previous photographs. Take a look at photographs from your self, like by way of the years, all of your totally different ages and phases, and discover the issues that also really feel basic to you as a result of likelihood is these are issues that actually work effectively for you. And likewise I simply assume one thing from an image of me 10 years in the past that I’d nonetheless put on now, meaning one thing. Are you aware what I imply? Which means one thing about like me and one thing concerning the clothes and the model, it might’t simply be like a development. It’s prefer it’s unimaginable, it’s nice. 

Emma: My first tip is to have high-quality fundamentals that fit your needs effectively and that you’ll put on lots. So regardless of your funds, it doesn’t matter. In case you’re like, my funds for denims is $50 or $300, no matter means prime quality to you, simply one thing that’s gonna final. And to me, an important factor is that it suits you effectively. And getting issues tailor-made is definitely lots cheaper than I assumed. I feel in case you had agreed to get your entire closet finished, that might clearly be fairly expensive. However to get a couple of fundamentals to only fit your needs completely normally actually isn’t as a lot as you may assume in case you’ve by no means finished it. So discover somebody in your space who does tailoring, it’s not one thing that solely exists in New York Metropolis. I swear you will discover somebody and get it to suit your physique. You’re gonna really feel actually good in it.

Elsie: it’s extraordinarily price it. One time I did an entire bag of stuff and it was like a hundred-something. It’s not unaffordable and there are such a lot of items that they only want a little bit tweak for it to be one thing you’ll actually put on. So once you’re doing all your clear out, you possibly can have the pile the place it’s like straight to the alterations after which you possibly can have the donate and the maintain in all of that too. I feel it’s undoubtedly price it for positive. Okay, my subsequent tip is in case you have clothes that you just put on by default that makes you are feeling dangerous about your self, let it go. Donate it, put it in a bag, and get it out of your home. I’ve had this many instances in my life, it’s like getting right into a behavior of identical to once you dress quick, you simply put on the identical three issues or no matter. And it may not even be stuff you like, however in case you discover that there’s one thing that once you’re carrying it, you don’t wanna run into individuals or once you’re carrying it, you don’t wanna be in photographs, then that’s a factor that I’d encourage changing and completely deleting out of your wardrobe. As a result of in case you don’t should, why would you wanna have one thing that made you are feeling dangerous? 

Emma: Yep, and my subsequent tip is definitely sort of alongside these strains, and I don’t know if it’s a tip a lot as a pep speak, however I simply wanna say, you’re attractive. Precisely the best way you’re, precisely the scale you’re, precisely the age you’re. So your wardrobe, your garments, and your make-up, in case you put on make-up, ought to mirror how attractive you’re. So that you don’t must draw back from garments cuz you assume, oh, if I used to be a distinct dimension or if I used to be taller, I’d put on that. Or lots that I hear now’s mates will likely be like, I’m too previous to put on X, Y, Z, which we’re like in our late thirties or early forties, you’re not,

Elsie: I do know they don’t even understand how previous is but. 

Emma: Yeah, you don’t even know. And I don’t know, I look again now at like early twenties Emma and I want that she would’ve identical to embraced herself extra as a result of I used to be so cute and I attempt to consider that. I’m like, Hey, sixties, Emma is gonna be saying that about you proper now. So embrace it, you’re cute, you’re scorching, and you’re attractive. Put on stuff that makes you are feeling that means as a result of it’s true. 

Elsie: Good pep speak, Emma. That was very nice. My subsequent one is, so I’ve a little bit temper board for the whole lot in my entire life together with clothes. I feel it actually helps. When you’ve got bother wandering out of your model, like that’s my drawback is that if I simply see one thing that’s cute, otherwise you see one thing that appears cute on another person, I don’t know. I’ve an issue, identical to getting drawn to my private deterrent is enjoyable, shiny clothes and I’ll severely put on it a few times. Like I simply don’t put on clothes like that again and again, over the best way I do different issues. So I’ve to maintain myself centered away from it. And it’s not like I can’t ever put on it, however I’m attempting to not, undoubtedly attempting not to spend so much on clothes like that anymore. Anyway, so I’ve my little temper board and it’s identical to footage of outfits I like, like individuals from Pinterest, just a bit collage and maintain it in your cellphone and remind your self once you’re undecided about a purchase order or no matter. I feel it’s a great way to be like, oh yeah, that is how I’m attempting to decorate, that is how I wish to gown.

Emma: Yep, I really like that. It’s like a cheat sheet. Okay. And my third tip is in case you love one thing, purchase it in a couple of colours that give you the results you want. However in case you love one thing, that is one thing that we stole from our grandma and I sort of used to assume she was sort of dorky for doing this, and now I one hundred percent do it and I get it and he or she was proper. 

Elsie: I by no means thought that, I at all times thought she was cool. Her closet I’m gonna describe them. One coloured, sort of like a gown that Ms. Frizzle wears. One coloured cotton shirt gown has a shade and midline sleeves and it goes down under the knee and it has an identical belt. And she or he had that gown in like the entire rainbow. After which she had footwear, like pumps in the entire rainbow to match them. And I at all times thought it was the best factor about our grandma, it was her instructor uniform. Yeah, she was a instructor. And Emma is rather like her.

Emma: However jumpsuits. That’s just like the model. So yeah, in case you love one thing, in case you’re like, wow, this sweater suits me very well, or, oh, I at all times, you understand, put on this pair of denims, they match me effectively. Effectively, if they’ve it in one other wash perhaps get that. Additionally, when one thing wears out, like a terrific pair of footwear and you may’t resell them, or a terrific pair of denims, they’ve gotten too many holes, no matter, don’t really feel like you must change it up in case you don’t wish to. You possibly can actually simply exchange it with the identical factor once more, no disgrace in that. So in case you discover one thing that’s working for you and also you like it, embrace it. 

Elsie: That’s true. I feel that that’s actually good recommendation, Em. So many garments do are available many various colours too, which is sweet. 

Emma: Yeah, simply slight variations and it’s not even a lot. I accomplish that a lot laundry having a toddler and I solely have one child. I don’t even know what individuals are doing with 2, 3, or 4 children. 

Elsie: You don’t wanna understand how a lot totally different it’s with two children. 

Emma: So typically it’s simply having barely totally different colours. You additionally may simply purchase the very same shade, simply so you have got a couple of, so that you don’t really feel like you must do laundry day by day as a result of I get that too. Go for it, do what it’s worthwhile to do. 

Elsie: I like it. I hope this episode was useful. We actually, actually really feel keen about this topic, style is for everybody. And in case you learn Curated Closet, in case you do the workbook, in case you do the Coloration seek the advice of, ship us your expertise and your outcomes as a result of we simply wanna hear about it. It’s enjoyable for us and we’re . So thanks a lot for listening, and I suppose I’m simply going to move the baton now to Nova for our well-known phase, A Joke and a Reality with Nova. All proper, I’ve Nova right here, Nova this week. Do you have got a joke for us or a truth?

Nova: A truth. 

Elsie: Okay. What’s the very fact? 

Nova: Do you know that like within the solar, greater than one million Earths may slot in it? 

Elsie: Actually? Inside the solar, greater than one million? That appears like lots. Superior truth. Thanks.


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